As any parent knows, one of the most difficult things to do is see things that are wrong with your own child(ren). Amazingly, we can spot a child with "issues" miles away unless it is our own:) That always make me laugh;-)
With my three kids growing-up, what I am noticing is that the scale of "normal" is extremely varied(mostly from parent to parent:) For the most part, two are my three monsters are "normal", but really they are not. Declan is 8 going on 75, he doesn't always get along with his peers, as most of them are not into reciting US History. Margaret, my other "normal" child is 5 going on 16. She is too smart for her own good and has common-sense that spans far beyond her 5 years on this earth. Then I have Killi, who is does not fit the mold. She has some LD and is sweet and kind to the point of allowing others to walk all over her.
There you have it, three kids and not one of them fits into "the box". Declan and Maggie can, when they want to jump in the box, but Killi would rather use the box to make a car, plane or boat to take her away:) It has taken me some time to see that Killi is not near the box, she is in her own circle, and I love her for that. I have known for most of her life that she was a little "different" but I was not sure how. Now I know and I am happy that I know. I want other parents to know. To feel that calmness you get when you stop trying to force your child into the "box". Sure, it is nice when your child can do the "box" when they need or want to, but it is just as okay for your child to never hop inside.
Take a look at your kids, are they in the "box", a "circle" or maybe something else. Just see it. Recognize it. I know it is hard, but it is harder to be the child forced into a box that you cannot fit in. And next time you spot that kid that is "different" think about what others see when they look at your kids.
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